Interesting Times

Today has been a strange day. I got an email from an ex who said that she has met someone else. More recently I think I would have been gutted, but in a very real way I feel very relieved and set free as it were.

I have been seeing someone for quite a while now who is incredibly lovely and understanding and accepts that although i am seeing her, it is difficult for me to shut out memories of the last person so soon after our split. I find it almost impossible to dislike anyone which is why things might tend to drag out a little.

The irony with the last is that although I knew for a long while (even before we split) that it was not going to work out with her unless she changed a few key fundamental bits about the way she acts and interacts with people, it is, however, difficult when you spend a significant portion of your life with someone, not to think of them, even after a split, for example especially when you experience something that you know your ex would instantly connect with e.g. a film, a piece of music you heard and so on.

The lovely realisation however, is that by knowing she has met someone else, the pure break has finally been made, where there is the possibility of being the friend you were with them before you went out with them, because they would not think that your communications with them could be anything but noble. It is always hard when ex's meet new people,and i would not suggest to anyone that they then become the ultimate soulmate to the ex again overnight...no this might mean that they feel so relaxed with you that they tell you all about their new beau - which will only lead to comparisons being made. I would not be so ungentlemanly to do that to her and would expect the same courtesy from her in kind.

Instead, I am just very content to know that i might be able to share my common interests with my ex again. I have never gone out with anyone that i didnt share a deep friendship with first, and so in a almost Hollywood cliche style, I think it might be possible, just possible, to reconnect with that person again for the common good.

Of course if I and one of my ex's were to meet in other circumstances, where we had both got more experience of life, had let the bad feelings of breakup die down, and had changed enough with these experiences to be far more compatible, then who know...in some circles love never dies and will bring the two together again.

Goodnight Wales.