The rules of divorce

1. The next person you sleep with will not be your life partner - you will be getting over the last. If you're not then you either have good compartmentalisation of feelings (which will eventually rear their ulgy head again when you least expect it) or you didnt love them in the first place. If you feel happy about never seeing them again then maybe you werent in it in the first place. You have to however try to imagine this as a single person to ensure your next encounter isnt blurring the feelings of the last. Of course its much easier to go out on a sexathon and eminiently more enjoyable than sat at home hugging a pillow in the corner of a pitch black room, your tears smudging the ink of the till receipt they bought you a toothbrush with. A very close friend did well on casual acquaintances when he said to every next girl "im not mr right but im mr right now". Why so many went for it is up to debate but probably the challenge, if not the no-ties sex.

2. Any songs/films/coffee brand you used to share will remind you of your ex - when they stop reminding you then you have moved on, but you may also find that you dont ever enjoy the songs again, as the shared feelings they invoked were intregral to the enjoyment. Of course if your ex used to listen to such pap that you only tolerated it through the rosy tinted specs of love then this transition will probably be very quick. I have found a transitional song by Thom Yorke and PJ Harvey "This Mess Were In"...one of them is the new and one of them is the old. In fact its worth trying on its merits alone.

3. All attempts to speed the moving on process by obliterating the old with new experiences dont really speed it up they just cushion the transition.

4. You will wake up one morning where the occasional twinge of regret will be completely replaced by a new found love of new opportunities and freedom. It is ok to feel both for a while.

5. Live life fast die young, ever upwards and onwards etc

Love j xx